Its done Once in life time. So choose the partner carefully.
Some people don't get enough affection from parents. So they Try to get that love from their friend which often end up in Love or other unexpected events. So just think twice or thrice before falling. Just because he or she cares for you doesn't mean they have to be a partner. They could be much better if they were just friends. Beauty isn't everything. Sometimes beautiful/handsome people are very arrogant. External beauty is often deceptive. So look for internal beauty.
Some people choose their partner for their money or their possessions. They wouldn't enjoy what they get in that way.
Its better to do marriage with the permission from parents. The number of registered marriage without the the permission of parents is increasing(eloping). But that increases the risk of a being secluded from family. If they just think a second about how their parents would feel, i don't think they would do that. When they do that all their parents dream get shattered and make them face fallen among the public. Many friends will ask them why didn't you call them for the marriage?
A few years ago, there was a similar case in our relative's family. We were in such pain that we couldn't even answer the questions asked by friends.
A few others reason that if they(parents) have accepted your relationship, then they wouldn't have got this problem. I cant say anything to that. But i like to ask a few negative questions like what if u get into a deep financial crisis and you dont have your parents for help? If you loose your partner then where will you go??? Its always better not to go against marriage.
Recently i saw this in a serial. Lets say there were 4 people A,B,C,D. A and B are lovers. Now C comes and says(lied) to A that he saw B(a guy) with another girl D. Now A goes off to start a fight with B. Now what the real issue is that just because of someone who they never knew(or they knew them previously)say something, they just believe it. That's how misunderstanding usually creeps into a family. Its so true in many of our lives. We just trust others without even giving even a single chance for thoughts.
Some people say that its just trust that they wont do it. I like to quote a dialog from an old movie. The heroine says that he wasnt like that while he was in love. the hero says that time we were lovers and now we were Husband and wife. So there will obviously be a change in character after marriage. We can see a lot of movies which describe life before marriage but in fact just one or two movies about the life people have to lead after the marriage.(woa!!! i hate movies for that!!! ) Life after marriage meaning the way they have to understand each other and the society.
Often in movies we can see that the marriage as the end; But in real life its the beginning of life and we have prepared all those days before it for the life after marriage.
Many parents just think about the family relations and want their kids to marry a family whom they don't want to loose relationship(who ones. It just takes one sentence to cause a split/enmity). That's too bad. Some parents like their kids to marry just because of the status of the other family in the society without even thinking whether they will lead a good life and are they suitable!
As marriage is done Once in life time(at least that was the rule), lets just( make them) decide our partner carefully and without any selfish ambition or careless thoughts(Can someone suggest me a better word??)