Friday, September 26, 2008

Marriage

Its done Once in life time. So choose the partner carefully.
Some people don't get enough affection from parents. So they Try to get that love from their friend which often end up in Love or other unexpected events. So just think twice or thrice before falling. Just because he or she cares for you doesn't mean they have to be a partner. They could be much better if they were just friends. Beauty isn't everything. Sometimes beautiful/handsome people are very arrogant. External beauty is often deceptive. So look for internal beauty.

Some people choose their partner for their money or their possessions. They wouldn't enjoy what they get in that way.

Its better to do marriage with the permission from parents. The number of registered marriage without the the permission of parents is increasing(eloping). But that increases the risk of a being secluded from family. If they just think a second about how their parents would feel, i don't think they would do that. When they do that all their parents dream get shattered and make them face fallen among the public. Many friends will ask them why didn't you call them for the marriage?
A few years ago, there was a similar case in our relative's family. We were in such pain that we couldn't even answer the questions asked by friends.

A few others reason that if they(parents) have accepted your relationship, then they wouldn't have got this problem. I cant say anything to that. But i like to ask a few negative questions like what if u get into a deep financial crisis and you dont have your parents for help? If you loose your partner then where will you go??? Its always better not to go against marriage.

Recently i saw this in a serial. Lets say there were 4 people A,B,C,D. A and B are lovers. Now C comes and says(lied) to A that he saw B(a guy) with another girl D. Now A goes off to start a fight with B. Now what the real issue is that just because of someone who they never knew(or they knew them previously)say something, they just believe it. That's how misunderstanding usually creeps into a family. Its so true in many of our lives. We just trust others without even giving even a single chance for thoughts.

Some people say that its just trust that they wont do it. I like to quote a dialog from an old movie. The heroine says that he wasnt like that while he was in love. the hero says that time we were lovers and now we were Husband and wife. So there will obviously be a change in character after marriage. We can see a lot of movies which describe life before marriage but in fact just one or two movies about the life people have to lead after the marriage.(woa!!! i hate movies for that!!! ) Life after marriage meaning the way they have to understand each other and the society.

Often in movies we can see that the marriage as the end; But in real life its the beginning of life and we have prepared all those days before it for the life after marriage.

Many parents just think about the family relations and want their kids to marry a family whom they don't want to loose relationship(who ones. It just takes one sentence to cause a split/enmity). That's too bad. Some parents like their kids to marry just because of the status of the other family in the society without even thinking whether they will lead a good life and are they suitable!

As marriage is done Once in life time(at least that was the rule), lets just( make them) decide our partner carefully and without any selfish ambition or careless thoughts(Can someone suggest me a better word??)

7 comments:

P. Saravanan said...

Nice topic... as we grow we can learn the diff between right and wrong... we shud learn...i learnt lot of things from past 3-4 years.

Bhargavi said...

'Its done Once in life time'
:o :D


'Lets say there were 4 people A,B,C,D. A and B are lovers. Now C comes and says(lied) to A that he saw B(a guy) with another girl. Now A goes off to start a fight with B.'

What about D?
N you watch serials?!! :P


'The heroine says that he wasnt like that while he was in love. the hero says that time we were lovers and now we were Husband and wife'

Alaipayuthey rite? Or is it Vaali?


'lets just( make them) decide our partner carefully and without any selfish ambition or careless thoughts'

Make whom decide? Parents?


It all depends on the family. Some parents don't mind their children selecting their life partner. But some parents want their children to marry the person of their choice.

First find which type your parents are.. and then carry on.
:)

Philip Kingsley said...

@Bang:
Yeah.. i watched it because it was my childhood fav. Lets Say that the another girl was D: :D

its Vaali

Yeah parents! if they are very adament!!!

Thats my point too!!!

Visu said...

And whats your take on gay marriages? :P

Visu said...

OH! Did i just tell that aloud? Oops!! :P

Aslam said...

ummmm.... interesting.. but what about those people ( especially girls ) who don't even know whom they are going to marry.. other than just a photograph...?? Their parents decide everything... and don't even consult her.. do u say that it is fair..? After all 'Its done Once in life time'.. so shouldn't the concerned parties have more say in it... It happens.. cant deny that...

And not all arranged marriages have a fairy tale happy ending, in spite of all the checks and confirmation... and neither do all love marriages... but i suppose failed love marriages get more negative publicity...

I suppose both children as well as parents must try to understand each other... and figure out a suitable solution for an approved love marriage.. :)

oh well...

@saravanan...
Whats ur story..?? is it that... umm... oh.. right.. heard it from A and B... and was confirmed by C.. but D denied it.. dude..! i am truly sorry..

@visu..
Umm.. well.. they hav their own choice... and no parent will agree to it whatever may be the reason... so i guess they cant have an "approved" love marriage.. they can however, run away from home to US or Canada and get married...

Philip Kingsley said...

@aslam: problems arise in both love marriage and arranged marriage when they see only their self or the present than the distant future or their money or other attributes.

@visu: I am always againts it. Its against moral(e) of indian society